Absolute complete random babble about time...

We say it all the time, Does it really seem like it has been a year since...or Doesn't that feel like it was eons ago? It was only a month ago! So how can that be possible? Time dragging on and time whipping by at the same time depending on the event? What about how we deal with change during a time?

I will choose our recent weight loss success. Doesn't it seem like yesterday I forwarded the WW ad kind of half joking about signing up? It was exactly 7 weeks ago that we started logging in our daily points and losing the lbs together. During it, life went on and the end of the school year arrived, each of us weighing in at at least a 10lb loss. Clothes started to feel looser, we started to feel better, but how did all this happen in only what felt like a week's time? What took 2 years to put on is gone in 7 weeks. It will take my brain a long time to catch up with that.

As we all approach anniversaries (most of us this summer) in the teens, it is really a time to look back. How did we get here? What has changed? How have we weathered the storms? The guys we dated and thought were so cute 15 or more years ago are the same, but are we? The things we once thought were cute may now be annoying. Are we annoying too? How did we even like each other in the first place? I look at friends with failed marriages/relationships. Standing on the outside looking in it is so clear. One friend whose positive traits were HARD WORKING, SELF MOTIVATED, SMART and DRIVEN at age 22...have remained the same, only intensified in 12 years to the point of perhaps leaving her husband in the dust. His cute "boyish behavior" intensified over the 12 years and maybe is not so cute now. They are going in opposite directions because they have "changed". But have they really?

We are pretty much who we are going to be from birth. I believe this after having 2 children and looking at my son's behavior at age 12 months, comparing it to who he is today at 10. He is the same...STRONG WILLED, STUBBORN and well, strong willed. These characteristics are part of his DNA and will be with him his whole life.

I look at my own marriage...as we have grown up, our characteristics that we had at 25 are still there, only have intensified, have aged. Could it drive us apart? Sure. But I don't want it to, so I keep that in check...it was all there in the beginning only it looks different now. It will look different again at age 50, 60 and 70.

Looking at my daughter and her friendships, I see who she is and who she isn't compatible with. She is too young to know who clicks and why so I try to steer her in the right direction. This as any mother knows, could and may backfire, as we are usually attracted to people who aren't right for us in some way.

But for now, I will hold on to my ability to pick her friends, while I log on my points and fit into my smaller clothes while analyzing my friends' relationships. I will enjoy this summer, full of freedom and waking up to the sound of the pool pump at 8am rather than the alarm clock. Because before we know it, it will be back to school, and we will all be talking about how fast the summer flew by.